Be kind, gentle, and caring. The feminine side is caring, loving, and nurturing, not destructive and hateful. Always smile, carry a bright outlook, and live today as if it's your last. In the days since Martin left the Dolphins’ training complex in disgust over what he said was continuous and over-the-top hazing by Incognito and others, America has found itself in a debate over the definition of modern manhood, pitting the primacy of old warrior codes against evolving social expectations around bullying and cruel joshing. As the NFL probes the Dolphins’ locker room culture and, more broadly, the league’s views on hazing, the incident has reverberated across the country, at a time when basketball, European soccer, and now American football have become embroiled in controversies around cultural, racial, and gender sensitivities. Many have rushed to Incognito’s defense, blaming Martin for failing to resolve the matter inside the locker room, and for not just punch...