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In the days since Martin left the Dolphins’ training complex in disgust over what he said was continuous and over-the-top hazing by Incognito and others, America has found itself in a debate over the definition of modern manhood, pitting the primacy of old warrior codes against evolving social expectations around bullying and cruel joshing. As the NFL probes the Dolphins’ locker room culture and, more broadly, the league’s views on hazing, the incident has reverberated across the country, at a time when basketball, European soccer, and now American football have become embroiled in controversies around cultural, racial, and gender sensitivities. Many have rushed to Incognito’s defense, blaming Martin for failing to resolve the matter inside the locker room, and for not just punching back twice as hard at Incognito to assert dominance.
“If Incognito did offend him racially, that's something you have to handle as a man!” one anonymous NFL-er told Sport Illustrated’s Jim Martin.
Some sports culture experts also suggest that, while Incognito’s behavior may have been particularly cruel, some NFL coaches, players, and executives looked the other way because the big offensive lineman performed on the field and riled up the locker room, even as he racked up a rap sheet of misconduct.
The upside of Martin’s decision to step outside the team to complain about his treatment may turn into a “game changing” moment, where Americans will one day look back and be shocked that such behavior was ever tolerated, or that some men were so bluntly defined as merely muscle and over the top mean.
Has time healed all wounds? In 1963 – The “Equal Pay For Women Act” was passed. The “Equal Pay For Women Act” positively impacted money but negatively impacted marriage. The day woman started being able to pay their own way, the male ego started missing hugs. Manhood took a hit. The man felt less of a man because women became more than a woman. She now had more to offer. Until 1963 women were pretty much only frying the bacon but after 1963 women started bringing home the bacon.
The State of Manhood in America is at an all time low. Men must follow the lead of the women's movement; it is only by understanding their past for its best qualities and worst intemperance that men will free themselves from any constraints of the masculine ideology.
Miami Dolphins offensive tackle Richie Incognito is indefinitely suspended for sending racist and threatening messages to teammate Jonathan Martin, prompting a debate about masculinity. |
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Dolphins guard Richie Incognito (68) and tackle Jonathan Martin (71)
stand on the field during an NFL football practice in Davie, Fla.
Incognito has been suspended for sending racist and threatening messages
to teammate Martin.
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